I just can't say No!
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I just can't say No!
If this describes you, you have two choices. One, admit
that you will always turn over control of your time,
energy, and life to other people. (This isn't my favorite
of the two!) Two, admit that you have this tendency and
make some changes to control it.
As with most other impulsive situations, one of the keys to
managing the inability to say no is to make no immediate,
knee-jerk responses when you are asked to take on a task.
Politely inform the requester that you need to get back to
him and will do so in a time frame that gives you a chance
to make a good decision - often the next day will suffice.
After you have bought some time, evaluate what you're
considering doing. Do you really want to do this? Many
motivations can play into answering this question, but
answer it you must. Otherwise, you are often saying "yes"
just because you've been asked. If you're still considering
the request at this point, think about how doing the task
will impact the rest of your life. What time will you have
to give up? Will you be investing in meaningful activity if
you do this task? If any of these questions give you
serious pause, turn down the request. Tell the party who
asked exactly why you're saying no (no excuses here) so
that he will consider your reasons the next time he makes a
request of you.
Don't let others take control of your life!
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